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On a Stack of Bibles?

One of my favorite movies – and one that I believe every Father of young children should see – is Hook. There is a line in the movie where Peter Banning (played by Robin Williams) makes a promise to his son who is skeptical. Peter says “My word is my bond” and his son Jack (played by Charlie Korsmo) says “Yeah, junk bonds.”

In the Sermon on the mount Jesus take up the topic of promises or vows. Here is what He has to say:

Again, you have heard that the ancients were told, ‘YOU SHALL NOT MAKE FALSE VOWS, BUT SHALL FULFILL YOUR VOWS TO THE LORD.’ But I say to you, make no oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is the footstool of His feet, or by Jerusalem, for it is THE CITY OF THE GREAT KING. “Nor shall you make an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; and anything beyond these is of evil. (Matt 5:33-37 NASB)

Can you be trusted? I knew a guy once who would always, when given the choice, lie. It didn’t matter what the topic, or what the occasion, you could not trust anything he told you. It was the strangest thing, and it made doing business with him almost impossible.

Truth and honesty are key priority in the Kingdom of God. In Christ we see this prophesy from Psalm 85:10 fulfilled:

“Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other.”

John says it this way:

The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. (John 1:14)

This follows John’s description of Jesus as the Word of God. God’s word is Truth, and so Jesus confirms this by telling us later in John

I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life." (John 14:6)

In Psalm 15 David declares that the man who would come into the presence of God was one who “swears to his own hurt, and does not change.” In other words, God puts a high place of honor and importance on your words. What you say matters.

God does not want us to throw words around, and make promises we do not intend to keep. [Tweet This]  How often do we do this with our loved ones? It is easy to make promises to our kids, and then recant, or get too busy, or “change our minds.” But I believe a man’s word must be his bond. A promise needs to be kept.

The thing is, when we break promises, we are representing God as a promise breaker. We are supposed to be representing or I like to say re-presenting God the Father and Jesus to the world around us. When we break our word, it brings disgrace to the Lord and demonstrates a God who does not keep His word. This is true in everything we do. In many cases we are the only Christ others will ever see. If we are untrustworthy, then they write off God as untrustworthy.

Let’s up the honesty quotient today.

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0 thoughts on “On a Stack of Bibles?

  1. Caddo Veil

    Now this one is interesting, and triggers something for me, Ben. When I was a kid, my mom got around the whole promise deal by saying we were going to do something/get something (good)--and when we'd get excited, she'd follow with, "maybe", and most often, "we'll see". I learned that "we'll see" meant it would not pan out, and resulted in disappointed hopes. It occurs to me today, that that wound set me up to believe God was a God of "Maybes"--maybe He'll answer my prayers, maybe He'll work things out for my benefit. I don't know what kind of responses you're getting from other readers--but I can tell you I keep coming back, because God meets me here. His desire is to teach us, and heal us--to make us aware of the areas we're lacking in, so that we will come to him and "Ask". He doesn't withhold good things from His children--He doesn't say "maybe", or "we'll see". Thank you so much, Ben, for being His loving voice--this is a dang good blog! God bless you abundantly--love, sis Caddo

    1. Ben Nelson

      When i was a young dad, my friend would remind me of the verse in Ps 15 - about swearing to your own hurt, and it had an impact on me. Now when i make a promise it is big deal to me to keep it. Not always easy, and sometime impossible, but we try to let our yes be faithful and true, and our no be dependable.

      It is so not the way of the world today, where promises are easy to break, and "everyone" lies.

      You are very kind with your words, and generous with your comments. Thanks for being a faithful reader!

  2. Debbie

    Thank you, Ben, for helping us remember the importance of our words and even more of the promises we make. Children are excellent accountability partners for us to have. 🙂 Mine held me to it like glue!!! And still do!!! God bless you!

    1. Ben Nelson

      Hey Debbie,
      Our kids can be a great mirror for us. Sounds like you have great kids. Thanks much for stopping in and joining the conversation.

  3. Jeff

    I love Hook! What a great movie for dads to see. My favorite part of the movie is when Rufio is about to die and looks at Peter Pan and says, "I wish...I wish I had a Dad like you." And then Peter's son takes off his "hook" hat and mumbles, "I'm sorry, Dad!" Makes me cry every time. (I may have this slightly wrong, but it's's been a while.)

    I always try to be a man of my word, especially with my family. I think people know that they can trust me.

  4. meetingintheclouds

    Truth and faithfulness - two essential qualities.

    I often think the 'world' holds higher standards for Christians than many Christians hold for themselves. The world 'expects' Christians to be truthful and faithful, and when they are not, their God is judged harshly and their personal witness is crippled.


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