This Q&A originated on Twitter. I posted a quote on Twitter yesterday from Kris Vallotton from Bethel Church in Redding, California. And I received this question in reply. I thought it was a great question, and decided to run out some thoughts here.
There are the tweets:
An idol is anything you have to check with before you obey God. – Kris Vallotton
— Benjamin Nelson (@MrBND) September 13, 2013
@MrBND Can your husband be an Idol? I mean we check with each other, but I dont think in that way.
— Patty (@pkayr) September 13, 2013
This is such a great question! (I know – I said that already)
First, when you get married, in God’s economy you are one with your spouse. Now that may not be manifest in every relationship out there. In fact we know that there are lots of believers out there with unbelieving spouses, or spouses who are just not in a great place with God.
But the ideal is that you and your loved one are walking together in the light of the Lord. In which case it is completely appropriate to bounce your impressions off your spouse, since he/she is there to partner with you in life. In fact, if you don’t have a spouse, or a believing spouse, and you hear something from the Lord that is – well – life altering – you might want to find a trusted advisor and work through it with them.
The intent would never be to find a way out of obedience, but rather to ensure that it was God speaking.
We desperately need one another in order to walk out this Christian life. (Check out my page – “One Anothers” for a list of all the “one another” scriptures in the New Testament) Believe me, way more harm than good has probably been done with the caveat “God told me to – should I obey man rather than God?” Well – of course not, but you sure better know the voice of God before you go divorcing your wife, or leaving your Church, or marrying that guy or gal.
I think Kris’ intent in context had more to do with stuff, or distractions, than trusted Christian friends of loved ones.
What do you think?
See you again soon.